Healing and Petty: Embracing My Desire for Getback While Choosing Peace

Okay I know I'm Trippin But, I keep seeing posts about “healed people don’t want revenge,” and I’m over here journaling, praying, going to therapy…and still low-key hoping karma remembers some people’s addresses. I don’t hate them, I don’t want anything wild to happen, but let’s be honest and keep it a buck: there’s a part of me that still wants my get back. Not the old me that would blow up phones and write paragraphs. The new me that smiles, minds her business, and quietly wants the universe to run those receipts. Or am I trippin ?

This feeling is more common than you might think. Healing doesn’t erase anger overnight, and wanting a little payback doesn’t mean you’re stuck in the past. It means you’re human. Let’s talk about why it’s okay to feel petty sometimes, when it becomes a problem, and how to redefine growth in a way that honors both your feelings and your peace. Healing and Petty: Embracing My Desire for Getback While Choosing Peace

Healing Doesn’t Erase Anger

Healing is often painted as a clean break from all negative emotions, but that’s not how it works in real life. You can be making progress and still feel petty. You can be journaling, praying, and going to therapy, and still have moments where you want to see karma do its thing.

This doesn’t make you evil or immature. It makes you honest. Anger and resentment are natural responses to being hurt or wronged. They don’t disappear just because you want to move on. Instead, they fade gradually as you learn to manage them better.

For example, you might find yourself replaying a hurtful conversation or remembering a betrayal. That’s normal. It shows you’re processing your feelings, not ignoring them. The key is to recognize these moments without letting them control your actions.

Peace and Petty can go together

When Wanting Getback Becomes Dangerous

There’s a fine line between acknowledging your feelings and letting them trap you. The desire for revenge or “getting back” can become an obsession that keeps you stuck in the past. This looks like stalking someone’s social media, replaying arguments in your head, or blocking your own peace by holding on to grudges.

This kind of behavior drains your energy and distracts you from your own growth. It’s like carrying a heavy backpack filled with stones—you can’t move forward easily when you’re weighed down by bitterness.

For instance, you might catch yourself scrolling through an ex’s page late at night, hoping to find something to justify your anger. Or you might rehearse a comeback over and over, even though you know it won’t change anything. These actions keep you connected to the pain instead of freeing you from it.

Redefining Growth

Growth doesn’t mean you stop feeling petty or wanting your get back. Growth means you learn to choose your battles and protect your peace over your ego. It means you still think about those moments, but you don’t act on every impulse.

Choosing peace looks like smiling when you remember the wrongs, but deciding not to respond. It means focusing on your own happiness instead of trying to control others. It means trusting that karma or life will handle things in its own time.

For example, instead of sending a snarky message, you might write it down in your journal and then close the book. Instead of stalking someone’s page, you might delete the app or set a time limit on your phone. These small choices add up to real progress.

Sometimes, growth means accepting that you’ll never fully forget or forgive, and that’s okay. It means loving yourself enough to let go of the need for immediate justice and instead, holding space for your own healing.

I Know I'm Trippin But.........I still want my get back sometimes. I just love my peace more.